OK so there is a place here in stillwater called the botanical gardens. It's an amazing garden that people from all over the place have come to help make it pretty. I went the other day with my friend and her 2 kids, plus a neighbor kid. OOOHHHHH MMMMYYYYYY GGGOOOOSSSHHHHH!!!! I do not remember being that embarrassed in a long time. OK get a picture in your head it's a nice quiet peaceful place. Lots of flowers, ponds, walkways,etc. She just tells the kids "Go Run" and they take off terrorizing through this place. Off the pathways climbing on things, out of control. I tell them "hey guys stay on the pathways and be respectful". She says
"No it's fine...they are kids". I quietly bite my tongue and just go on looking. We look for a little longer and then the kid is climbing the rocks of the pond. The lady in control finally comes and tells them to get down and stay on the pathways. She apologizes and looks dumb founded that they told her kids to stop. We look a few minutes more and then the kid takes off out the back of the place into an open field. She just lets him keep running until you can barely see him anymore. I call them back because we do not know what is back there plus it's rude, plus I am not comfortable with it all. He comes back up with sister(who is crying because he beat her at running). I tell him come on let's finish the tour of the garden and then we can go to a park and play. He tells me "NO" I do not want to. I say " Come on we are almost done, we can hurry and be done". He says" No, I do what I want and you cannot stop me". MIND YOU THIS WHOLE TIME THE MOM IS JUST STANDING THERE. I say Chris(name change) let's just do what the group wants and then we can go have fun. He then proceeds to tell me to" Shut up that he is not listening, I am not his boss, and I will not tell him what to do". I LOST it!! I flipped out! I told him that if he were my child I would slap the shit out of him. That it is NOT OK to talk to any adult that way. I told him that my child would never be disrespectful to me and NOT act that way in public. I just left. I told him that he ruined any fun I was having and I was not going to be treated that way.
I got in my car and drove home.
My friend will not talk to me. She says that he's just a kid and to go easy on him. EXCUSE ME???????? He does not need a best friend right now. He needs a PARENT. If she does not get a lid on that now can you imagine what he is going to be like as a teenager??
He was in the principles office weekly at school, now I know why.
I am sorry but I am not going to be around someone that lets their kids talk that way.
Any of you let your kids do that?? Am I crazy for believing they should mind and behave in public??
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It makes me so mad when Aiden acts up in public. I don't "let" him do it, but that doesn't always prevent the behavior. He doesn't get away with it though, if he acts like that and is disrespectful to me, whether out in public or at home, he gets in trouble. I don't know how old this kid was, but just standing there and letting him act that way without consequences is only going to make it worse. I can't stop Aiden from having a fit, if he's going to do it, he's going to do it, but that doesn't mean I have to condone the behavior!
I agree! People can't MAKE their kids stop acting like idiots--but they can certainly make it obviously that they don't think it is OK! My kids frequently choose public places to act ridiculous, and they don't much want to stop when I tell them to--but you can bet that I drag them to the car, strap them in and take them home. It might end my day too, but they have to LEARN to act right. . .they don't just do it automatically! Part of the reason our society is so full of delinquents is because parents have tried to be their kids' friends instead of the authority figures!!
He's 9
Oh my gosh! Seriously? A nine year old acts this way? I would have guessed you were talking about a preschooler!!!!!
Here's a question. . .how is it that you (and several other people around you guys) could see how obnoxious the kid was being and the mom was clueless? Does she think she's doing him a favor by letting him get away with whatever he wants? She is going to have SERIOUS trouble when this kid is older!
I tell my 9 year old now--you might think I'm being harsh--but 10 years from now it will seem easy compared to what the police might have to say if you keep up the hooligan behavior!
WoW! I don't blame you girl. I would have done the same thing. I cannot stand disrespectful kids. Maybe your friend is just embarrassed by her kids, but if not, then she is over-reacting. You shouldn't have be walked all over by a 9 year old because your friend allows him to do it.
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